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chicken371:
Something you 3 need to learn about, ive realised.

Forgiveness!


Forgiveness is letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment. If you are a parent, you can provide a wonderful model for your children by forgiving. If they observe your reconciliation with friends or family members who have wronged you, perhaps they will learn not to harbor resentment over the ways in which you may have disappointed them. If you are not a parent, forgiveness is still an extremely valuable skill to have.

In the movie “Avalon,” the uncle stopped talking to his family members for the rest of his life because they started Thanksgiving dinner without him after he was excessively late for the zillionth time. What a waste of energy it is to stay angry for decades.

Forgiveness can be a gift that we give to ourselves. Here are some easy steps towards forgiveness:

Acknowledge your own inner pain.
Express those emotions in non-hurtful ways without yelling or attacking.
Protect yourself from further victimization.
Try to understand the point of view and motivations of the person to be forgiven; replace anger with compassion.
Forgive yourself for your role in the relationship.
Decide whether to remain in the relationship.
Perform the overt act of forgiveness verbally or in writing. If the person is dead or unreachable, you can still write down your feelings in letter form.
What Forgiveness Is Not…

Forgiveness is not forgetting or pretending it didn’t happen. It did happen, and we need to retain the lesson learned without holding onto the pain.
Forgiveness is not excusing. We excuse a person who is not to blame. We forgive because a wrong was committed.
Forgiveness is not giving permission to continue hurtful behaviors; nor is it condoning the behavior in the past or in the future.
Forgiveness is not reconciliation. We have to make a separate decision about whether to reconcile with the person we are forgiving or whether to maintain our distance.
Forgiving and letting go can be very difficult challenges, but it’s even more stressful to hold on to grudges. There are several symbolic letting-go rituals that can help with the process. If you are having trouble forgiving someone else, write them a letter expressing all of your feelings and explaining why you need to let go. You don’t need to mail that letter — it is cathartic just to write it all down. You can also write down all of your excess “baggage” on a piece of paper and burn it or cast it into the sea in a bottle when you are ready to really let go.



There you go Sirmrmansheep, Sebbacus and keevin50.
Now. Where is it?

1.902:
I think your nuts. This is the most outrageous thing i have ever seen. YOUR TELLING ME 'I LACK FORGIVENESS FOR YOU" WHEN YOU KILLED AND HARASSED PLAYERS MULTIPLE TIMES, and then when they called names, you harass them and go "Apologize, you lack forgiveness for not saying sorry for you calling me a name when i bother you, you have to be bothered and harassed when im around because im "Special" if you really learned forgiveness and let it go, you wouldent have bothered to add "Something you 3 need to learn about, ive realised.
Forgiveness!" "
There you go Sirmrmansheep, Sebbacus and keevin50.
Now. Where is it?"
 
WTF??? you dident burn it or cast it into the sea you just tried to make me and these palyers look bad XD

You dident even have a proper explaination of what i or these players did to you, Just rambled some bullshit and called us "unforgivers" indirectly.

seaofpain:
sea?? i sea my name sea :O :DD :)

seaofpain:
:ooo :ddd DDd:d:d:d :irriririririririrrir FNFJNGKFNGKJ

johnny:
I'm sorry to hear this Kot but i don't understand what are you talking about? About why you need to post this kind of stuff?
SirMrManSheep didn't say anything about you getting banned or anything he only said that it was wrong for your part to harass other players and disrupting others. Keevin was so confused, I'm pretty sure you wanted revenge. But I'll tell you something revenge will only make it worst.

We just want you to restrain yourself in these situations and not overeact over stuff like this. You are a great Staff but you must learn how to restrain yourself in dreadful situations.
We want the best for you and none of us wanted you to get banned.

I forgive you honestly sometimes you can't control yourself because of some stupid players. You simply wanted to give what you tasted, harsh and horrible actions. But you must try to ignore players like this or else you'll never control yourself.

Next time try to be in more control of yourself. Try not to explode and do the same to others. Try to take a breath or talk to someone you trust.
If you didn't do any of these actions we would of punished Sebbacus and Keevin for actions they made. But you all made mistakes and you all had great reasons to why they should get punished and why you shouldn't be punished.

Message from sebaccus.. I will kinda miss her :C she made the server more interesting :D

It's easy to forgive but it's hard to trust the same person again :/

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